How available are you?

Well this is one such question that hoovers alongside my head and always has me in a dilemma over how much should I keep myself available while also protecting myself so as to be not walked over.
 

We all would have faced situations where we felt that we were being taken for granted and are emotionally too vulnerable where only one question pops out all of the times ‘was I too available to be played around’? Getting it straight, all in all I say it is a psychological game that is instinctively pulled on each other and the one who plays it straight comes out unharmed or with flying colours. 

So how available are you? It all goes with the situation and how deep you have dug yourself into.Let us sit down to assess a few situations where we are helplessly cornered.

No matter what the mode of introduction you approach you eventually have to resort to knowing her through an indirect media which is messaging either through an IM or SMS.Many questions pin us down and plague us while during the messaging like how often do I text?, how much should I text?, how long should I text and when should I text? The answer lies simple, no matter how attached you get of her make an effort to not look available for chat round the clock. Go on with your daily life, just know this being online all the time won’t win her instantly. 

Understand there is a fine line between being desperate or clingy and being mature about how you approach a relationship and always know that having a straight approach will separate the girls from the women and show you which ones play games, and which ones shoot from the hips.

Well what is wrong in being available all of the time and be there just when I am needed might as well strike in as a question but remember it reeks of desperation. Always be that person who has his own thing going on and isn't available all the time and someone who has a life. Let her not feel that she has to be available 24/7 for you, let her have time for herself and let her too miss you. And trust me on this as this is with pure touch of my personal experience.

But again there are instances where she talks or messages continuously and here you don't play games. Don't pretend to be less available than you are. If she is someone who likes to text periodically throughout the day that's fine, just be cool about it. Don't think too much about how available you're coming across. Just remember this too much of anything fades away eventually and a few strands remain as reminiscence. 

However inspite of all the above and it has come to a point where it is like you reached a dead end where you feel too much of communication played on her where it is now that she is either 

1. Dead

2. Avoiding you or

3. She has lost interest

4. playing hard to make you weak in your knees

So the next time and much before any of the above happens just be proactive learn from your mistakes, find patterns in what you did previously and scheme up a better strategy. Just remember this you are not alone in the game. Everyone was played around and everyone has an experience to share.

But all in all and honestly a real woman will appreciate someone who is just honest and says "hey I am single and i do not have a bunch of girls flocking around me. I am lonely, and i have all the time in the world and never too busy for you, i like you a lot, have got a lot of love to give”.

Making you play hard is something that little girls do in high school. Just get out there be a man, lay your cards on the table ensure to not be clingy and wait till the girl is interested, let her know that you dig her a lot, just be cool, just allow her know that you have a heart of gold and a lot of love to give, and you aren't scared to say it.