Let's talk about SEX - part i

Growing up listening to the titled song was more of a statement and how it has with times kept changing. So, let’s really talk about sex more than ever before and see how it is being perceived and what it symbolizes across cultures.

Sex! Ah that 3-letter word, and how it has been the bane of contention for centuries and generations. So why exactly is Sex such a beautiful expression at times and also be the most perverse intention? What makes it so reclusively congenial.

Sex as definition is ‘another word for making love’, but if you actually search the internet there is no meaningful definition of sex without using sexual activity or sexual intercourse in it. Sex as a word has no independent meaning without involving the word itself in it. Such is the incertitude of human definition of the word SEX. If sex were to be a person it would be most ill-defined, objectified, confused and misunderstood individual to ever exist.

Men and women define sex based on their sociologically tuned interactive conscious evaluations. So the definition of sex; Men seek sex in abundance and something they can never have enough of while women pursue sex as a secondary instinct. For men, sex is a mere primal instinct while for women it is more of love, intimacy and romance.

This inherent difference varies from culture to culture and from person to person which again redefines sex. This primal instinct of never enough isn't a male privilege anymore or pressured to be so. Females too have this insatiable appetite to seek more of it.

There is also this abundance of socially induced stereotypes that add up to the already confusing  definition of sex and these are stupidly male centric..
For example: Sex is physical and visual for men while it is personal and emotional for women. Men have sex for stimulating his hormones while women for psychological gratification. Unfortunately, men defined the word sex based solely on his convoluted perception without an imprimatur from women.

Sex to me is complex phenomenon that can be as much psychological as biological which can motivate intimate interpersonal relationships apart from the physical sensual pleasures and excitement. Sex I prefer to is strictly an enthusiasm of pure consent and never coercion.

Even though sex is in itself an innate fundamental function of procreation of the human species, it is also a complex paradox than mere evolutionary instinct to procreate. Sex has evolved from physical copulation to digital pornography to virtual simulation.

The digression of sex and its ultimate evolution isn’t a thing of the present but has been around centuries continuing to encourage perverse sexual proclivities ranging from pedophilia to necrophilia.

Sex is no more a natural chemical factory emitting dopamine, endorphins, serotonin and oxytocin, it is slowly becoming more banal and mechanical often showing carnal and animalistic behaviour.

Sex for better or worse can be seen drawings its influences and conclusions from family, society, religion and culture. Sex is gloriously celebrated as a way of life in some cultures while it is a taboo to even talk about in some cultures. For religions sex is a sin and a carnal demonic engagement while some have temples built in expression of sexual glory.

So what exactly is this SEX.

For some very few it is a simple physical exertion coupled with harmonal release and the pulsating climatic ecstasy of an orgasm (orgasms); ultimately substantiating their very existence as humans.

For some of the other few...

to be Contd

Shall ponder more on SEX its cultural influences, it's  abused version and other such intricates in my next post.

Let's talk about sex - part ii

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Note: Sex in humans should be impartial and should have no affiliations, no distinction or discrimination towards individual sexual orientation irrespective of Straight, Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual or Transsexual.

Ramblings of a Hopeless Romantic

"I realised that the way to love someone is to lightly run your finger over that person’s soul until you find a crack, and then gently pour your love into that crack. The crack here is not your past or any but a way (crack) that you made for me but hid it in fear of falling for me but Voila i found it and here we are so much in love".

"When the words don’t spill from my lips, my eyes whisper to you. You pull the secrets out of me with just a smile. My heartbeat tells you all the stories I was hesitant to share. You speak a language only my heart knows and damn haven’t you become fluent".

"You have no idea how much i want to feel your legs intertwined with mine as we lay asleep, knowing you’re right there and not going anywhere. The sun sets so early nowadays, but, my God, your eyes have never been brighter. I find your lips, so kissable and your kiss, unmissable. your fingertips, so touchable and your eyes irresistible. I melt and get weak when I see you nude. I get a jolt of energy like no other".

"You are perfectly imperfect, you are just as flawed as any but you have a way of making it look cute. You have this attitude that allures me into you every time we argue or fight or anything that you do which impacts us. I am in love with the imperfect you and there is nothing so beautiful about having a woman who can be herself in the midst of everything. Just as human and just as imperfect as I am".

"Love is having to understand her, having said that it doesn't mean that you have solved the jinx that she is. She should remain to be the most important person whom you are trying to understand and will continue to which might sometimes have inconclusive references from countless attempts but you should never give up in loving her and understanding her. You will have to lf needed put in months and years in understanding who she is what she wants from you. All of which doesn’t mean she is  a complex being, it means you are not taking her for granted and you shall always strive to love her with the best of your abilities".

"If my words can make a hug turn to a kiss, I shall run through every word I have learnt and every way of putting them together to just capture your attention and imagination. I shall make it my ambition to make you stay this way for there is no warmer feeling than experiencing emotions this way".

Who is breaking the egg?

Let us start with a simple analogy of a marriage/ relationship to an Egg. Might sound silly but there are many lessons we can learn from simple natural creations around us.

Did you know that the near spherical shape of the egg makes it impossible to crack from a certain angle contrary to the fragility that is associated to it. In the same way our lives, the new love lives or marriages take an impossible to break bonding and nothing can break it or threaten the shape or idea behind it.

The couple that are newly in love or married share the most intimate of moments, a perfect relationship far from the reality of life and slowly fall under the belief that this perfection will remain and they are the perfect couple and nothing can touch them. But little did we know that this is not a fairy tale and having to take life for granted will take its toll on the relationship and it will break or wear down with time. Just like attacking the egg from the sides or the weaker section of it. The relationship which was assuming the perfect near spherical shape is giving away or slowly losing its shape cos we have taken each other for granted or the relationship on the whole. The notion that once it is yours will always stay yours creeps in and there starts the problem for everything. 

I am not a relationship guru neither am I married to give you an insight of what happens in relationships and why are we seeing more and more of unhappy couples and failing relationship and marriages.

Now let us start with the most wonderful thing we all are good at, the blame game. So, then who is actually breaking the egg? 

..to be contd