From the times unknown
to the times now, we ‘men’ have always wandered along the paths of uncertainly
to understand ‘what a women want’ so little was its success that a very few
embraced it while the rest continued to lurk in the darkness getting lost
completely. While the very subject continues to be elusive there are not many women
who actually have set out to understand ‘what we as men want’, very rare are
such instances where such a thought process was initiated.
Having to come from such
an ignored class or gender that always has been at the receiving end I would
want to throw some light on how simple a creation we are and how easy are we to
be interpreted.
The below gives a brief
introduction to all the women who always have wondered what we want but
never understood us.
To start with we are
simple creatures yet live to expect the very the basics from life
- - We have at least once in our lifetime have
dream't of marrying a rich girl and becoming a house husband. We also
sometimes wish are born as a woman. We love staying home.
- - We want to date the hottest girl in town but would
want to marry the one who can cook. We love home cooked food.
- - We love our mothers and will remain mama's
boys... forever. The sooner you accept it, the happier you'll
be. Never come between a man and his mother, she is and will always be the
first woman in our lives. We love our Mommies.
- - We don’t prefer deep conversations about where
the relationship is going. Without much of an ado if we are
with you, it means the relation is going someplace... that someplace could
change with time. We allow time to decide the due course.
- - We when home from work seek peace and calmness
for at least 10 minutes. We take time to settle.
- - We when say Yes, we mean Yes. When we say No, we
mean No. We want you to understand that and not dissect every move we make
and every word we say. We mean what we say.
- - We want to surprise our women for their
birthdays and anniversaries but a little help from their side about what
they want would really help. We love to surprise you.
- - We don't remember dates. Most of us
do not remember the first time we looked at each other, the first time we
touched or the first time we fought. If you want us to remember, remind
us. We too busy remembering days and dates.
- - We want our space. We don't want to tell you
what we do every second of the day nor do we want to know what you ate for
lunch and how many bites you have had. We have more important
things to take care of.
- - We want you to know that even if we are watching
TV, playing video games, watching sports and when you are talking we
obviously are listening even if you think we aren't. We love
sports and listening to you.
- - We are slobs. We don't want you to tidy up
after us. If everything is left on the table, let it be
there. It makes it easier to find without the hassle of getting into
drawers and cupboards. We are lazy.
- - We need and want our Boys' Night out where we
can drink and just forget about everything else. We love our
friends.
- - We can't interpret your silence. We don't
get hints, not direct hints not subtle hints, neither can we read your
mind. We want you to tell us in clear words what is it that you
want. We are not psychologists.
- - We don’t like playing the guessing games, if you
have something to tell us something that is bothering you; share it. We
love to help.
- - We want you to know that if we are with you and
look at another woman, that doesn't mean we don't love you. We are
just programmed that way, we just to have to look. We love to
appreciate beauty.
- - We forget; not just the anniversaries and
birthdays but also bad ugly fights. We love to forget and forgive.
- - We don't like to talk about past nor discuss
yours in excruciating details. So please let it be that way. We
don’t dwell in past.
- - All of us men get jealous... we just don't want
to show fearing to scare you away. We love you too.
- - We fantasize... about, you know... a lot. Every
other minute or so. We love dreaming.
- - We lie. It can be white lies, big ones or small fibs.
We do, and all of us do. We want you to know (believe) that it is for your
own good. We do it all for you.
- - We like to chase the woman of our dreams... but only
till that time we deem fit. If it goes on for too long, we lose interest
and if it is too short, we don't get the sense of achievement. We
love pursuing.
- - We, well most of us would do and say anything, and i
mean anything, to get you into bed and after that we would want you to
forgive us as well. We also make mistakes; To err is to human.
- - We can sense when you are emotionally vulnerable...
and sadly some of us prey on those vulnerabilities. Some of us are
opportunists.
- - We want to be good at flirting. Some of us are while
most of us are not. We flirt too.
- - We hate shopping unless it is for us. We love
our gadgets.
- - We gossip... but will never accept it but we do. We love gossips too.
Disclaimer - The
post might have missed to include a great much detail on stuff that makes men
who they are, the above perspective is from an individual who is single and not
having gone through the landscapes of Marriage where nuances such as the above
will continue to elicit a limited response as connoisseurship keeps shrinking.
