Being a mountaineer doesn't mean you have the ability or
skill to scale the Mt. Everest, being a deep sea diver doesn't necessarily mean
you can dive through Marina trench. Having the ability to interpret if not
understand something or someone doesn't mean you have mastered it.
So does this blog, having to write some facts about women doesn't mean that the author has solved the jinx that woman is. She still remains to be
the most important subject of discussion with inconclusive references from
countless attempts that are through ages in understanding who she is and what
she actually wants from her men.
Having said that, it should be considered that right from
the times of Adam and Eve to the times now, women have always been seen as the
complex being to be around with, always coined as an enigma from Venus. Through
the ages innumerable they always were misunderstood and misinterpreted.
So who is a she? What does she actually want? (This is but
a feeble attempt to know who she is). What defines her and what makes her?
A woman is a mother, she will love you like one, she might
also trouble you and demand pampering like a daughter, she will sometimes take
care of you like a girlfriend, understand you like a friend, support you like a
wife and look up to you like a sister, she is a force to reckon with when
angered. she is all that and much more.
Below are a few pointers that a woman wants us ‘Men’ to understand
of her
• All women
love pampering. However much they deny it, the bottom line is they love it.
• All women
want their man to be self-sufficient'. They prefer us to be ‘The One’ for them.
• Some women
might be career-oriented, but would still want us to take care of them which
doesn't mean she can't. She also would like to contribute some percentage in
helping us run the house. So let her.
• A Woman’s
career is as important to them as is ours to us. Better respect that.
• Whenever
a woman says ‘Fine’ something is damn very well not fine and when they say, ‘nothing’,
there is always something to discuss. Giving up on asking is not at all a good
option.
• Women
sometimes might want us to understand things without they actually expressing
it or without we asking about them. Probing to understand her is always good.
• Women
might get attracted towards our bad-boy image that is because they believe they
can change that into a good-boy.
• Women are
emotional. They think from their heart and in the process get hurt very often.
They want us to be the one who will never hurt them.
• Women do
not like criticism, better if not to keep it to the minimum. Do not criticize;
their cooking skills (they are not trying to compete with our mom’s cooking), their
driving, their electrical or electronic skills et al.
• Women
hate being lied to. Do not ever lie to avoid confrontations, do not ever omit
or hide details (it is also construed as a lie).
• Women and
their mood swings don't just happen during 'that' time of the month, they can
happen anytime, anywhere and the sooner we learn to identify them the better it
is for us and it always helps to agree with them during those times.
• Women
always want to be part of our lives and it is better to understand that. When they
ask how was our day, ‘fine’ is never the answer to give they expect to hear
details.
• Women
also need their girls' night out. They gossip. They bitch. They drink. They even
abuse. Better get over it.
• When a
woman says Yes, she means Maybe. When she says No, she means Maybe. When she
says Maybe, she means No. And all of that is expected to be understood, they
can’t help it they are programmed that way.
• Women too
like being chased and wooed but not stalked and do not appreciate we crossing
the line here. Adopting crappy and cheesy lines to get to her are an absolute
no-no.
• Women do
not consider looks as important but that doesn't mean they are blind and have
no sense of smell. Always ensure to look and smell good.
• Women
like men with manners, etiquette and chivalry while vulgarity and cheapness are
meant for us boys night out. Make efforts to keep it that way.
• Women get
jealous. It is always good to maintain one arm distance with the fairer sex
which they approve as an appropriate distance.
• When
women are silent, better go through every conversation that has happened in the
near past to figure out where we went wrong.
• Women
prefer us helping them in the house. Good to extend a helping hand every now
and then.
• Women
prefer us being cutely jealous but not obsessively possessive. Do not cross
that line.
• Women
have good memory, they not only remember important dates and events but also
every conversation they have had with us. So it is better to not refer to any
old argument. It is for our own good.
• A woman
wants commitment; not inking-their-names-on-our-body kinds but a promise that
she is and will be the most important person in our life.
• Women
have quite a few close and costly friends; Diamonds are their best friends
while chocolates, shoes, bags, dresses, perfumes, make-up are their other close
friends.
• Women love
shopping and taking them out for shopping is the best medicine to cheer them up
– ALMOST ALWAYS!
• Women
like being lazy too so don’t expect them to be dolled up all the time with
manicured hands and perfect hairstyle.
• Women
take hours to dress up which eventually for us men, they expect a better
response and acknowledgement in return than 'you look good.' or 'are you done
yet?'
The above I call is just the tip of the ice berg, trying to
unravel the mystery that she is needs years of dedicated husbandry and a great
sense of details.
Disclaimer: An attempt henceforth made from the above should
be referred to as only an attempt but not a survivor’s guide in your daily
lives with women.
