A dance with life and death alone - I
Forgotten Words..
Ideal woman Vs Ideal Man (Part I)

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Blog of fame (and damn, it ain’t so any more)
Well the journey started for fame and here it is ending up for the dames and about dames, Damn the fame.
For all of who, who haven’t been through what I have been well here’s my finger; assume it showing you a direction or just an attitude.
Damn, anything for these dames.
For being straight and talking straight has led me straight to a point where being straight is not so straight anymore. Right here but not straight anymore.
Damn the fame (again)
Fighting through the times I thought would find what is right, but damn me and I only blame myself and my quest for fame.
Damn the games.
Tame the fame and the dames will follow and this I thought would be nothing but a game, which has now turned out to be so lame.
Damn the dames and the fame.
Damn ’it If you don't like the above, well i like the word damn and so DAMN YOU
The curious case of being a man (damn this is hard)
To start with we are not as complex a being as women are; we are simple, fun loving and yet stupid enough to fall for trivial whimsical temptations created and posed before us by the complex opposite. Can’t help but to go there all of the times.
Anyways, now to the case of WE being WE. (Gee here we go)
What makes a man vulnerable? Well shouldn’t we say this to be the most debated and yet openly known fact. We fall for everything from an apple from a tree to the falling stars from the sky. Just some gravitational pull and voila there we fall. How stupid can we be of the known facts and yet fall with all glory. We dumb nuts still don’t have a clue.
What hurts a man’s ego? Shouldn’t you know it by now that an equivalent and opposite ego not just hurts but also punctures it. As is quipped, there can only be one beast in the wild and the emergence of the women kind suddenly started to pose threat. Even as the debate on equality runs amok and among should we not just accept the fact that their gender is superior than ours. Well dude, life in harmony is existence of co-ed existence without much of resistance. ;)
What makes a man being called a dog? Well for starters only a bitch can recognise a dog and chillax bud the word dog is less derogatory than bitch.
(no offence but just for giggles) Ok ok understanding why a man acts like a dog and always is on a hunt. Well I bloody well don’t know for am a man too.Now to the serious stuff that defines and makes a man who he is, egoistic chauvinistic and oh yeah a pervert (for those who very well know the truth this is only fiction)
Men who tell themselves that "they're the man" in the early stages of a relationship. And they are (no qualms about it). The first stages of dating is full of masculinity: you've got the girl, you take her out, impress her, ward off rival males... you are James Bond (well you F’ ing idiot you still work for her majesty).
Men who after a while, feel dominated by the more feminine emotions: like inclination towards her feelings, caring for her and sharing moments and the quiet nights. Seem to assume that they are giving way to becoming her girlfriend in men's clothing. (Lucky those who are cross dressers and fuck those who aren’t). Well you jerk the mantra here is adaptability and not the change of your gender.
Why men try and control emotions: The new sensitive man is a modern construct. Throughout history, men didn't weep over flowers and sunsets; we used to be strong, rational and full of restraint. It's worked for millions of years, and it still works now. (bullshit this is no modern construction but is a pure destruction and we still don’t get it)
Why men try so hard at being decisive: Well this is a tricky topic and profoundly not my muse. When a man finds that fewer decisions are being made by him while the majority by the opposite, he suddenly freaks out as you very well know the ability of women drivers and so he tries to take the reins again. Just as always he goes by the very popular stupid belief that being decisive puts him in the driver’s seat. And show her he ain’t afraid to step up and look after her. (Well we iconic super idiots never want to know the view from the seat next to the driver)
Why men try to be Independent Independence is a must. Being the man means keeping your independence while sharing everything is suffocating. Keep your own independent existence by having activities that are separate from her. I don’t know but being dependent is also a complaint from women who don’t always prefer to have men who follow them and are dependent on them and yet still make a fuss on we being independent. I surely must miss this topic rather get tangled in confusion. (hope i make some sense at least by now)
Remember the old cliché, boys will be boys and hell ya we will be. All of you out there know that ‘You are the Man’. (my ass we very well are the ass around)
Sutras for the Married Kind.
For the Starters and much before we continue with the post, please do not just FOLLOW me BORROW me.
Accept the inalienable truth that ‘Age and wedlock tame even a wildest man’. So don’t be surprised or perplexed by the way your life has turned after getting married, live on dude you have company.
For Appetisers we have a few FACTS and for Main Course a few ACTS that can help us salvage the remnants.
Fact # 1. Marriage is like a phone call in the night: first ring, and then you wake up. Surprised but it is like a dream which you only can dare to have in the nights for day dreaming ‘also’ can leave you seeking mental asylum.
Fact # 2. Marriage is give and take. You’d better give it to her or she’ll take it anyway. Live with the fact that it is you who always have to give and also end up taken from.
Fact # 3. The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret. Still the best kept secret.
Now that we know that WEDLOCK is indeed a LOCK till the END (may God have mercy) let us try unlock and continue to live under the assumption that light at the end of the tunnel will soon be switched on, just waiting for her.
Till then the below
Sutra # 1. Compromising does not mean you are wrong & your wife is right, it only means that safety of your head is much more important than your ego.
Sutra # 2. To win a fight in a ring, you should be a good wrestler. But to win a fight with a ring on your MIDDLE finger, you must be a good loser.
Sutra # 3. Realize and digest the fact that once upon a time, GIRLS used to cook like their mothers. But now they DRINK like their fathers. So ALWAYS be prepared who knows she might even outrun you it is in their BLOOD.
Sutra # 4. Why Sex? Isn't Love enough, Isn’t love in the air? "Air is everywhere, But numb nut we still need a fricking fan to feel it". Get on with it and much before anything know that ‘You might be the one wearing the pants in your family but it is your wife who controls the zipper!’
Sutra # 5. The capacity of survival is not just being vigour but staying safe even of the rigorous times. Use a rubber else bear the thudded.
Sutra # 6. If things go wrong and you contemplate SUICIDE, plan it in a way where you jump from HER EGO level to your [IQ] level.
Sutra # 7. The 7 year itch. When something itches you scratch which is natural but moron this is not about sex but a warning that the expiration date of your relationship is nearing and you need to have a fresh prescription or even change the doctor.
Sutra # 8. Just cos she drinks more than you doesn’t mean you deprive her of booze, you twit know that one such global poll revealed that women are impressed when her guy offers them wine on a date. Just to let you know a date with a non-alcoholic drink is like a porn movie playing on the radio even while the actress is sitting right before you. All of this for the talk that is after. ;)
Sutra # 9. Remember, Nothing is prewritten and nothing can be re-written. So just live with what you have rather cavein with your cravings, just understand that a sunset here is sunrise on the other end of the world! What appears to be the end may actually be a new beginning!
Sutra # 10. Always be interactive than reactive. Just for the starters Study shows that a normal Indian Man speaks only for 34mins to his wife in a week. For I agree how long does it take to say, YES, NO or Hmm. For the late starters am talking abt talking talk and not fighting talk.
All being said and made fun of, marriage as a relationship is a union heading for disaster if both the individuals have a mindset of only wanting to take and not give. It's as predictable as the darkness after sunset.
Thus and without much of fuss get on with it and venture into the darkness (may god be with you). he he.
Random stupidity full of infused confusion

Following the likes of many I wanted to own a blog that is visited and read by many. So I created myself a link and started to wander the corners and the grey areas’ that were for ideas and topics that can fit my blog and me.
Compilation of words that can suit the reader and appeal to one is as serious a talent as composing a music note that can appease a listener, which I thought I had in me. Anyways going by many such presumptions and aspirations I started putting in my ideas, words and situations I thought best to be expressed before all. The dilemma was always there in choosing the words and the topics while the appeal and the readability still remains a major factor.
How random can our thoughts be and how fickle they can get is something that always intrigued us, talking of which I thought why not I share them with you. So here is a classic example of me being stupid with words.
Of expectations and exceptions!

Expectations tend to creep in with every moment that draws you closer while unraveling the contents. The correlation to which i would like get a comparison with the contents of such things and the psychology involved might sound weird but i tend to get my inspirations from the most unexpected things and persons.
My expectations out of you were completely extinct while i was getting to know you, but that vacant space was getting over crowded with little but significant expectations. Suddenly everything that is associated with you has tagged an expectation with it. I don't know what this feeling is but it feels good to draw an imaginative expectation and then find to what extent I am proven right, agreed i failed to meet my own expectation of expecting things off you but hey the feeling of an anticipation, failure and attached emotions just fill my heart.
The joys and sorrow that come with you are most beautiful feelings i have had for anyone after a long time. Babes you have this amazingly distinct and enigmatic persona that makes me crazy, happy, smile and also sad sometimes, but you know that is what makes us "human".
This is not an intention to instigate any kind of emotion in you but just to let you know am completely head over heels with whatever the emotion that you make me go through.
What if ?

Random thoughts ... ..
The frivolous connotations that emerge out of the human friendship and the emotional attachment are only for the lack of sense that is found in severe deficiencies on either parties where all that is ever involved is taken for granted. Going by which and my understanding of the under-stated or under-estimated emotions..i see a greater mystery that is to be ravelled. Humans and their complex behavioural patterns. Think am just no exception.
On the contrary
I think there are two ways to understanding my previous article: The natural and the social.
I reckon there is a possibility of being friends with a woman, just as long as there is certain distance time-wise and space-wise between the friendship parts. Instinct is a very powerful thing; there are lots of communications between people other than verbal and visual. This is why sometimes we, men, like a girl that isn't that visually appealing; or the other way around, there might be this gorgeous woman, but something in her tells us that she is not worth the effort.
When talking about men-women relationships (friend-wise), there are many variables to consider: For how long do the man and woman know each other? Does he have a partner? Does she have a partner? Have they ever been involved? How often do they see each other? But posing as a friend to her because you were attracted to her can become into a nonsensical and hypocritical situation. There is nothing wrong with having an honest interest in her taste and feelings, just as long as you accept that the reason of this is to see if the relationship is going to become something serious or if its going to be just some fooling around. But if your interest is not corresponded in some definite time then you're going nowhere and you're been just playing as a fool.
And we also completely can’t conclude that a friendship between a man and a woman is impossible, under certain environments. I deeply love many Girls I know from my childhood, former friends and other women that I know, I consider all of them true friends.
I guess it all depends on what you call friendship. If friendship is for you seeing each other regularly and talking constantly or hang out regularly, then men and women with certain appeal for each other cannot definitely stay on pure friendly bases. Then again, if friendship for you is a bond that you've made with someone that neither space time nor society can break, then yes, friendship between men and women is possible. It is a spiritual matter.
The Mystery Continues..

What Colour am i?
Lady Influences and Me (Part 1)

All the women in my life have contributed to or imparted some change in me with their direct and indirect influences. They include my mom, my sisters and my friends.
Right from my birth to the day now, my mom had had a greater influence on my personality and my understanding of life. She taught me everything that is me now, from mumbling the first ever word ‘mama’ to writing this blog. She taught me the civilised life with her honest, tolerant and caring presence. Her love and caring never eased and continues to grow with me. She is a never-ending song in my heart of comfort, happiness, and being. I may sometimes forget the words but I always remember the tune.
My sisters too have had their significant influences on me. My elder sister and her dedication to the family taught me the importance of loving owns’ family and being loved back. My younger sister also played her part and still continues to with her money saving skills and her always there for me attitude. Though one is elder and the other younger they with me forever like a gift to my heart, a friend to my soul, a witness to my worst and best, like a shadow through my ups and downs sharing the joys and sorrow.
They stand unique to themselves and any other women I have come across. They are most beautiful and wonderful things to happen to me. Even as they stand north and south when it comes to their personalities they left an indelible impression and influenced my life in one of the most gorgeous and magnificent ways. They changed my perspective on women or I say my understanding of them with their mood swings, sweet talks, love and emotion and their attention to detail.
I am what i am today and without them am no one today, thank you ma for everything that i am and will be tomorrow.
The Glam Pam Effect I

Music - The most potent muse

For those who already know life can be cruel with puissant intimidation sparing none and there are no exceptions. But for some, music gives a risible approach and forces a twist which changes the perceptions of life. Songs that were heard start to map the incidents with intuitions, repercussions with regressions and regret with rejoice. And thus spoke ‘Music washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life’. So discover the phenomenonal complexity of music and the way it can positively influence your life.
Of balls and bollocks
The Down whiskey code: (Might not be as illustrious as The Da Vinci Code)
Coming back to the code

2) Never call women when drunk for you may not remember what you spoke and then brood over your unintentional commitments.
3) Never carry more money than the amount you consume for you may end-up paying more than you can digest in the morning.
4) Never pick up a lady after getting drunk for who knows how they actually look in the morning. (The Beer Google effect)
5) Never drink and drive for you may pass-out and meet with an accident so always drink while driving with this you may actually end up drunk by the time you reach home.
6) Never mix drinks without much knowledge for you may end up with a head weighing a ton.
7) Always carry contraceptives for who knows you might even end up humping anything that walks.
8) Always carry a compass or a map for you might be wondering where you are in the morning.
9) Never ever drink on empty stomach for that is the reason you end up putting extra kilos as you tend to drink more and eat much more after drinks.
10) Always be happy with what you get to drink for after consumption all have the same impact.
Sun block (SPF 50+)
The human emotion i say is like a paradoxical reaction with more to it than expected. The whimsical notions associated are quite capricious and may leave more than a stain when encountered.
Love gives warmth and shines on people who embrace it but did we ever wonder what would come off it when we explore it without limits! Well it gives a tan to the fortunate else a sun burn to the less fortunate. I always loved the song ‘sunscreen for everyone’ by Bazz Lurhmann and always wondered why would he use such a title for his song, well it makes a lot of sense - too much of love exposure either tans you or burns you and to avoid such we use a sunscreen (here it is an advice or lessons from experience).
I always pitied my friends and others who suffered the dreaded which i like to call ‘the Love lorn and torn either way’ syndrome. Anyways whenever i found such fools brooding over their tales i always thought ‘get a life dude/tte’ but once did i know i would find myself in the same pit like they.
The journey was amazing though, the thrills and the attached frills always made me want more (sometimes regretfully when curtailed). The fun filled days were like love candles (handles too thanx to the beer after breaking up) lighting up my days, nights and afternoons giving me the warmth of the other side which i never felt. For i say ‘A lovers love conjures all thee’, however being an Indian and born with that extra bit of melanin i was able to protect myself from getting severely burnt or hurt under the candles (and handles). My extra bit of melanin here was the love and understanding of my family and the involved, i just could pull it through.
The experience was more than exciting and ascertaining than i could have ever imagined or dreamed of for i analysed the pit and admired my craftsmanship for digging myself to such depths. The epitome of the emotions that are involved can only be blocked with a sun block along with the appropriate SPF levels. We Indians use less concentrated sunscreen thanks to the extra melinine and hence more prone to the extremes while the west who are lesser fools emotionally use a higher concentration. "Thus forth use a sunscreen and enjoy the heat no matter where you come from."