Men Vs. Women, anyone?

We all have often but carefully chose to tread the path that defines who we are as men and women, what we want from each other and what we understand of. To which some of us including me have found a profound liking to, a blame i take upon myself but let us have an honest retrospection on why we are made this way.

Men and women through ages have constantly criticized and ridiculed each other engaging in many maneuvers which have if not entirely resulted in exasperating people like me. So I refrain from commenting on any such representations carried through time but would like to refute the basis on which they are made.

So is it that men hate women and vice versa?

To start with let us understand what it is when people use statements like “women are a lot more complicated than men” a serious nonsense I say but I have my own take on it though. To all of such fools “Men are just as complicated” are we all not forgetting being fed statements such as “men are simplistic fools who exist to be told what to do, and women are the complex, entitled princesses of the universe” all through childhood. But seriously, why can’t there be an equal take on the both genders which is found missing in every sphere of our lives.

Anyways coming to arguments where we have men not trusting women and women not trusting men for whatever the reason they have found compelling, we should all know that opinions when put on debate can attract some disenfranchised people.

So you may get a few people who lurk in these places just wanting everyone to know how evil women are and also women with opinions vice versa. We should all remember that not everyone is a rocket scientist, and henceforth we will have some people who have a limited capacity for relationship success. By nature of their genetic disposition, their temperament and their upbringing they will choose people who may be similarly dysfunctional and start relationships. These will inevitably be problem ridden or unsuccessful. After repeated failures they will start to take aim at the whole opposite sex, expressing their disappointment at their own failures by blaming others and no matter what, we cannot talk them out of it.

So how complicated are we when it comes to understanding each other. Putting it simple “A man’s brain is like a waffle. Integrated squares, where there is a clear route from one idea to the next. A woman’s brain is like, (wait a second I love pasta) a bowl of spaghetti, one idea goes off into many tangents and there is no clear route or outcome”.

In a general perspective sitting myself outside of the men vs. women “war” the overriding impression I get is that both the men and women have simply given up on their respective opposites with never ending hounding and confusion prevailing among them for so many years. They are horribly lost by the endless, conflicting messages of expectations.

If not anything, let us first try and understand why it is that men hate women and the next? Exploring the few nuances some women seem to be dead-set on putting their men down, trying to change them, making them give-up on a few choices, take up new ones and so.

Women dominate emotional situations. Women know, are taught, and even study insipid ways of manipulating situations in their favour. For an example when women say “You never make me feel special”, or “You do not buy me presents or make me feel special at random” it does not mean that they never feel special, just that they don’t feel special now, and need to make absolutes to get what they want.

Women know the power and control they have and most of them love to abuse it (not just use it). Sometimes it is amazing to let your man take charge. Perhaps a guy would do more random special things if he felt like he was allowed to have his balls back and be a man.

Having said the above does not in anyways take the blame away from men. Men are hated for most of them are just as lazy as hell, major procrastinators; they do nothing but sit on the couch and watch the house crumble around them but simply won’t do anything.

Men are no lesser saints here, trying to assume the infused machoism and act insensitive or being ignorant of the basic emotional needs of the opposite sex. Their incapacitating tendencies of taking her for granted, assuming that now that she is his there is nothing to be done but sit back and enjoy the show.

With nothing more to but only reasons to all these clichés have men considered as subservient idiots who always forget important occasions and focus on sports or hobbies and while women are considered as always nagging domineering and manipulative ones who whilst just wanting to be cuddled, will decline a cuddle to say “you’re just doing that because I am upset”.

Having to said all of the above am but now let to the make below point of note
All of this might sound as having fun or is it that it is really riddled with anger towards the opposite sex, which  again I leave for the reader to ponder on. Men Vs. Women someone please.

What women want from their men? (understanding how to understand her)

Being a mountaineer doesn't mean you have the ability or skill to scale the Mt. Everest, being a deep sea diver doesn't necessarily mean you can dive through Marina trench. Having the ability to interpret if not understand something or someone doesn't mean you have mastered it.

So does this blog, having to write some facts about women doesn't mean that the author has solved the jinx that woman is. She still remains to be the most important subject of discussion with inconclusive references from countless attempts that are through ages in understanding who she is and what she actually wants from her men.

Having said that, it should be considered that right from the times of Adam and Eve to the times now, women have always been seen as the complex being to be around with, always coined as an enigma from Venus. Through the ages innumerable they always were misunderstood and misinterpreted.

So who is a she? What does she actually want? (This is but a feeble attempt to know who she is). What defines her and what makes her?

A woman is a mother, she will love you like one, she might also trouble you and demand pampering like a daughter, she will sometimes take care of you like a girlfriend, understand you like a friend, support you like a wife and look up to you like a sister, she is a force to reckon with when angered. she is all that and much more.

Below are a few pointers that a woman wants us ‘Men’ to understand of her

•             All women love pampering. However much they deny it, the bottom line is they love it.

•             All women want their man to be self-sufficient'. They prefer us to be ‘The One’ for them.

•             Some women might be career-oriented, but would still want us to take care of them which doesn't mean she can't. She also would like to contribute some percentage in helping us run the house. So let her.

•             A Woman’s career is as important to them as is ours to us. Better respect that.

•             Whenever a woman says ‘Fine’ something is damn very well not fine and when they say, ‘nothing’, there is always something to discuss.  Giving up on asking is not at all a good option.

•             Women sometimes might want us to understand things without they actually expressing it or without we asking about them. Probing to understand her is always good.

•             Women might get attracted towards our bad-boy image that is because they believe they can change that into a good-boy.

•             Women are emotional. They think from their heart and in the process get hurt very often. They want us to be the one who will never hurt them.

•             Women do not like criticism, better if not to keep it to the minimum. Do not criticize; their cooking skills (they are not trying to compete with our mom’s cooking), their driving, their electrical or electronic skills et al.

•             Women hate being lied to. Do not ever lie to avoid confrontations, do not ever omit or hide details (it is also construed as a lie).

•             Women and their mood swings don't just happen during 'that' time of the month, they can happen anytime, anywhere and the sooner we learn to identify them the better it is for us and it always helps to agree with them during those times.

•             Women always want to be part of our lives and it is better to understand that. When they ask how was our day, ‘fine’ is never the answer to give they expect to hear details.

•             Women also need their girls' night out. They gossip. They bitch. They drink. They even abuse. Better get over it.

•             When a woman says Yes, she means Maybe. When she says No, she means Maybe. When she says Maybe, she means No. And all of that is expected to be understood, they can’t help it they are programmed that way.

•             Women too like being chased and wooed but not stalked and do not appreciate we crossing the line here. Adopting crappy and cheesy lines to get to her are an absolute no-no.

•             Women do not consider looks as important but that doesn't mean they are blind and have no sense of smell. Always ensure to look and smell good.

•             Women like men with manners, etiquette and chivalry while vulgarity and cheapness are meant for us boys night out. Make efforts to keep it that way.

•             Women get jealous. It is always good to maintain one arm distance with the fairer sex which they approve as an appropriate distance.

•             When women are silent, better go through every conversation that has happened in the near past to figure out where we went wrong.

•             Women prefer us helping them in the house. Good to extend a helping hand every now and then.

•             Women prefer us being cutely jealous but not obsessively possessive. Do not cross that line.

•             Women have good memory, they not only remember important dates and events but also every conversation they have had with us. So it is better to not refer to any old argument. It is for our own good.

•             A woman wants commitment; not inking-their-names-on-our-body kinds but a promise that she is and will be the most important person in our life.

•             Women have quite a few close and costly friends; Diamonds are their best friends while chocolates, shoes, bags, dresses, perfumes, make-up are their other close friends.

•             Women love shopping and taking them out for shopping is the best medicine to cheer them up – ALMOST ALWAYS!

•             Women like being lazy too so don’t expect them to be dolled up all the time with manicured hands and perfect hairstyle.

•             Women take hours to dress up which eventually for us men, they expect a better response and acknowledgement in return than 'you look good.' or 'are you done yet?'

The above I call is just the tip of the ice berg, trying to unravel the mystery that she is needs years of dedicated husbandry and a great sense of details.

Disclaimer: An attempt henceforth made from the above should be referred to as only an attempt but not a survivor’s guide in your daily lives with women. 

What Men Want (an untouched and ignored subject)?

From the times unknown to the times now, we ‘men’ have always wandered along the paths of uncertainly to understand ‘what a women want’ so little was its success that a very few embraced it while the rest continued to lurk in the darkness getting lost completely. While the very subject continues to be elusive there are not many women who actually have set out to understand ‘what we as men want’, very rare are such instances where such a thought process was initiated.

Having to come from such an ignored class or gender that always has been at the receiving end I would want to throw some light on how simple a creation we are and how easy are we to be interpreted.

The below gives a brief introduction to all the women who always have wondered what we want but never understood us.

To start with we are simple creatures yet live to expect the very the basics from life

• - We have at least once in our lifetime have dream't of marrying a rich girl and becoming a house husband. We also sometimes wish are born as a woman. We love staying home.
• - We want to date the hottest girl in town but would want to marry the one who can cook. We love home cooked food.
• - We love our mothers and will remain mama's boys... forever.  The sooner you accept it, the happier you'll be. Never come between a man and his mother, she is and will always be the first woman in our lives. We love our Mommies.
• - We don’t prefer deep conversations about where the relationship is going.  Without much of an ado if we are with you, it means the relation is going someplace... that someplace could change with time. We allow time to decide the due course.
• - We when home from work seek peace and calmness for at least 10 minutes. We take time to settle.
• - We when say Yes, we mean Yes. When we say No, we mean No. We want you to understand that and not dissect every move we make and every word we say. We mean what we say. 
• - We want to surprise our women for their birthdays and anniversaries but a little help from their side about what they want would really help. We love to surprise you.
• - We don't remember dates.  Most of us do not remember the first time we looked at each other, the first time we touched or the first time we fought. If you want us to remember, remind us. We too busy remembering days and dates.
• - We want our space. We don't want to tell you what we do every second of the day nor do we want to know what you ate for lunch and how many bites you have had. We have more important things to take care of.
• - We want you to know that even if we are watching TV, playing video games, watching sports and when you are talking we obviously are listening even if you think we aren't. We love sports and listening to you.
• - We are slobs. We don't want you to tidy up after us. If everything is left on the table, let it be there. It makes it easier to find without the hassle of getting into drawers and cupboards. We are lazy.
• - We need and want our Boys' Night out where we can drink and just forget about everything else. We love our friends.
• - We can't interpret your silence. We don't get hints, not direct hints not subtle hints, neither can we read your mind. We want you to tell us in clear words what is it that you want. We are not psychologists.
• - We don’t like playing the guessing games, if you have something to tell us something that is bothering you; share it. We love to help.
• - We want you to know that if we are with you and look at another woman, that doesn't mean we don't love you. We are just programmed that way, we just to have to look. We love to appreciate beauty.
• - We forget; not just the anniversaries and birthdays but also bad ugly fights. We love to forget and forgive.
• - We don't like to talk about past nor discuss yours in excruciating details. So please let it be that way. We don’t dwell in past.
• - All of us men get jealous... we just don't want to show fearing to scare you away. We love you too. 
• - We fantasize... about, you know... a lot. Every other minute or so. We love dreaming.
• - We lie. It can be white lies, big ones or small fibs. We do, and all of us do. We want you to know (believe) that it is for your own good. We do it all for you.
• - We like to chase the woman of our dreams... but only till that time we deem fit. If it goes on for too long, we lose interest and if it is too short, we don't get the sense of achievement. We love pursuing.
• - We, well most of us would do and say anything, and i mean anything, to get you into bed and after that we would want you to forgive us as well. We also make mistakes; To err is to human.
• - We can sense when you are emotionally vulnerable... and sadly some of us prey on those vulnerabilities. Some of us are opportunists.
• - We want to be good at flirting. Some of us are while most of us are not. We flirt too.
• - We hate shopping unless it is for us. We love our gadgets.
• - We gossip... but will never accept it but we do. We love gossips too. 

Disclaimer - The post might have missed to include a great much detail on stuff that makes men who they are, the above perspective is from an individual who is single and not having gone through the landscapes of Marriage where nuances such as the above will continue to elicit a limited response as connoisseurship keeps shrinking.

Her awesomeness and she

 

Little did the world know the existence of she, so little was her humbleness and so very little was her appearance that none but one believed in her. But again can it be that greatness be lost or seen hidden so set out was one guy who believed in her awesomeness, travelled and travelling he did for to his vain was no sighting of she. He wandered and wondered where is that she be found. And so in time was a day when he found her and ever since was he in awe of her awesomeness. So was this story of her by he, who still lingers and basks in her awesomeness

 

so it goes without much of an ado that she is AWESOME..

A dance with life and death alone - I

A Dance with life and a journey called Life..

Life is so unpredictable when u least expect it to be. It’s full of surprises when u start predicting it. It’s like a story which seems familiar, but the story keeps changing and the only thing that stays familiar is the beginning.

Life might seem complicated but the only simple thing evolving out of it is the inevitable death. It’s like a destination already known but the journey u take to reach it is what we call life.

The journey we choose defines the moments of our life.

A Dance With Life

Death can call for a dance with life

to drift to the melodies fo silence and unspoken word

to ponder the memories of its existence

to smile at its color....

Death can call for a dance with life

to cherish time and enemies of defeat

indefinite peace, harmony, scales, or

the scent of fresh lillies in Earth's sudden breeze....

Death can call for a dance with life

to heighten the fundamentals of emotion beyond fatalities,

slightly deeper...

in the eve of something as beautiful as when

death becomes life......and so we dance

Forgotten Words..

Forgotten words are no comparisons to what I have stood to lose here today, myself. Expressing oneself to make another reciprocate (as you said) is not what you are reading now; these are pure emotions coming through a person who never was responding to yours.

I was lost leading a life like no other, a life without a direction or a meaning. I always mistook the passing time as just another passing cloud without knowing that even they can strike a lightening. I felt the jolt and am still recovering from it. All through these years there was never a phase in my life where I felt I was letting go of my life without realizing it. Days went by and without knowing years passed by. And I think a last grab of what is left would make me realize a better tomorrow.

I wandered with no serious commitment and thought am not made for such things, but then you came along and made me wonder its essence. Love to me was like an ecstasy’ a brief escape from life. But then you taught me it is an ecstasy of elevated sensation of sheer bliss. With such a great detail I wonder what my life would be with you.

This is no autobiography, but an attempt to let know of you that am a changing person and one change can inspire another.

Thank you for everything.

Ideal woman Vs Ideal Man (Part I)

Ideal Man: There were times where woman could cook and ideally were great wives. These days She just pokes her food around the plate and hide things under her knife and claim to have a thousand intolerances and allergies

Ideal Woman: It is not that the women of these days have forgotten to cook or have stopped being that great wife it is just that they are not being noticed. There is always a work around and as said a little attention!!

Ideal Man: Only women have “careers” and Men have jobs to earn and if we could stop and have babies while someone else earn, believe me, we would.

Ideal Woman: We don’t need a “career” to feel validated. We don’t want to feel validated. And about babies, having to be pregnant for 9 months and then giving birth is more painful than getting your balls kicked. We can be pregnant again can you for another kick?

..

Ideal Woman: You guys have a checklist. High heels, perfect figure and whatnot and the list does'nt include the cooking abilities. 

Ideal man: Proficient deployment of glamorous high heels is altitude slickness, an attitude. Short skirts are her independence and display her courage that she can carry herself around. Her cooking ability is immaterial as long as she delights in her food.

Ideal man: you guys prefer men with money and other luxuries.

Ideal woman: Money is a ‘self-made’ statement and is an ‘can take care of anything you need' attitude.

…

Rajesh R. Vaddiparthy: You bozos screw your idealism and the life spent trying to find ‘em. Having a checklist will get you nowhere. You will be foolishly harbouring a romantic ideal to be marooned with no one but yourself to live with.

And if you may just ask What’s wrong with high aspiration? Always remember to have high aspirations, moderate expectations and small needs.

Blog of fame (and damn, it ain’t so any more)

Well the journey started for fame and here it is ending up for the dames and about dames, Damn the fame.

For all of who, who haven’t been through what I have been well here’s my finger; assume it showing you a direction or just an attitude.

Damn, anything for these dames.

For being straight and talking straight has led me straight to a point where being straight is not so straight anymore. Right here but not straight anymore.

Damn the fame (again)

Fighting through the times I thought would find what is right, but damn me and I only blame myself and my quest for fame.

Damn the games.

Tame the fame and the dames will follow and this I thought would be nothing but a game, which has now turned out to be so lame.

Damn the dames and the fame.

Damn ’it If you don't like the above, well i like the word damn and so DAMN YOU

The curious case of being a man (damn this is hard)

My previous posts for sure would have seen some raise their eyebrows, bro I get it I now have to write some facts and factoids about us gender. Well to start with I know that I have now stopped making sense for how can you write something about your ‘selves’.

To start with we are not as complex a being as women are; we are simple, fun loving and yet stupid enough to fall for trivial whimsical temptations created and posed before us by the complex opposite. Can’t help but to go there all of the times.

Anyways, now to the case of WE being WE. (Gee here we go)

What makes a man vulnerable? Well shouldn’t we say this to be the most debated and yet openly known fact. We fall for everything from an apple from a tree to the falling stars from the sky. Just some gravitational pull and voila there we fall. How stupid can we be of the known facts and yet fall with all glory. We dumb nuts still don’t have a clue.

What hurts a man’s ego? Shouldn’t you know it by now that an equivalent and opposite ego not just hurts but also punctures it. As is quipped, there can only be one beast in the wild and the emergence of the women kind suddenly started to pose threat. Even as the debate on equality runs amok and among should we not just accept the fact that their gender is superior than ours. Well dude, life in harmony is existence of co-ed existence without much of resistance. ;)

What makes a man being called a dog? Well for starters only a bitch can recognise a dog and chillax bud the word dog is less derogatory than bitch.

(no offence but just for giggles) Ok ok understanding why a man acts like a dog and always is on a hunt. Well I bloody well don’t know for am a man too.

Now to the serious stuff that defines and makes a man who he is, egoistic chauvinistic and oh yeah a pervert (for those who very well know the truth this is only fiction)

Men who tell themselves that "they're the man" in the early stages of a relationship. And they are (no qualms about it). The first stages of dating is full of masculinity: you've got the girl, you take her out, impress her, ward off rival males... you are James Bond (well you F’ ing idiot you still work for her majesty).

Men who after a while, feel dominated by the more feminine emotions: like inclination towards her feelings, caring for her and sharing moments and the quiet nights. Seem to assume that they are giving way to becoming her girlfriend in men's clothing. (Lucky those who are cross dressers and fuck those who aren’t). Well you jerk the mantra here is adaptability and not the change of your gender.

Why men try and control emotions: The new sensitive man is a modern construct. Throughout history, men didn't weep over flowers and sunsets; we used to be strong, rational and full of restraint. It's worked for millions of years, and it still works now. (bullshit this is no modern construction but is a pure destruction and we still don’t get it)

Why men try so hard at being decisive: Well this is a tricky topic and profoundly not my muse. When a man finds that fewer decisions are being made by him while the majority by the opposite, he suddenly freaks out as you very well know the ability of women drivers and so he tries to take the reins again. Just as always he goes by the very popular stupid belief that being decisive puts him in the driver’s seat. And show her he ain’t afraid to step up and look after her. (Well we iconic super idiots never want to know the view from the seat next to the driver)

Why men try to be Independent Independence is a must. Being the man means keeping your independence while sharing everything is suffocating. Keep your own independent existence by having activities that are separate from her. I don’t know but being dependent is also a complaint from women who don’t always prefer to have men who follow them and are dependent on them and yet still make a fuss on we being independent. I surely must miss this topic rather get tangled in confusion. (hope i make some sense at least by now)

Remember the old cliché, boys will be boys and hell ya we will be. All of you out there know that ‘You are the Man’. (my ass we very well are the ass around)

Sutras for the Married Kind.

Through the ages undefined and on pages uncounted for, man has always tried to solve the jinx and fix this complication called marriage.

For the Starters and much before we continue with the post, please do not just FOLLOW me BORROW me.

Accept the inalienable truth that ‘Age and wedlock tame even a wildest man’. So don’t be surprised or perplexed by the way your life has turned after getting married, live on dude you have company.


For Appetisers we have a few FACTS and for Main Course a few ACTS that can help us salvage the remnants.


Fact # 1. Marriage is like a phone call in the night: first ring, and then you wake up. Surprised but it is like a dream which you only can dare to have in the nights for day dreaming ‘also’ can leave you seeking mental asylum.
Fact # 2. Marriage is give and take. You’d better give it to her or she’ll take it anyway. Live with the fact that it is you who always have to give and also end up taken from.
Fact # 3. The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret. Still the best kept secret.
Now that we know that WEDLOCK is indeed a LOCK till the END (may God have mercy) let us try unlock and continue to live under the assumption that light at the end of the tunnel will soon be switched on, just waiting for her.

Till then the below
Sutra # 1. Compromising does not mean you are wrong & your wife is right, it only means that safety of your head is much more important than your ego.
Sutra # 2. To win a fight in a ring, you should be a good wrestler. But to win a fight with a ring on your MIDDLE finger, you must be a good loser.
Sutra # 3. Realize and digest the fact that once upon a time, GIRLS used to cook like their mothers. But now they DRINK like their fathers. So ALWAYS be prepared who knows she might even outrun you it is in their BLOOD.
Sutra # 4. Why Sex? Isn't Love enough, Isn’t love in the air? "Air is everywhere, But numb nut we still need a fricking fan to feel it". Get on with it and much before anything know that ‘You might be the one wearing the pants in your family but it is your wife who controls the zipper!’
Sutra # 5. The capacity of survival is not just being vigour but staying safe even of the rigorous times. Use a rubber else bear the thudded.
Sutra # 6. If things go wrong and you contemplate SUICIDE, plan it in a way where you jump from HER EGO level to your [IQ] level.
Sutra # 7. The 7 year itch. When something itches you scratch which is natural but moron this is not about sex but a warning that the expiration date of your relationship is nearing and you need to have a fresh prescription or even change the doctor.
Sutra # 8. Just cos she drinks more than you doesn’t mean you deprive her of booze, you twit know that one such global poll revealed that women are impressed when her guy offers them wine on a date. Just to let you know a date with a non-alcoholic drink is like a porn movie playing on the radio even while the actress is sitting right before you. All of this for the talk that is after. ;)
Sutra # 9. Remember, Nothing is prewritten and nothing can be re-written. So just live with what you have rather cavein with your cravings, just understand that a sunset here is sunrise on the other end of the world! What appears to be the end may actually be a new beginning!
Sutra # 10. Always be interactive than reactive. Just for the starters Study shows that a normal Indian Man speaks only for 34mins to his wife in a week. For I agree how long does it take to say, YES, NO or Hmm. For the late starters am talking abt talking talk and not fighting talk.
All being said and made fun of, marriage as a relationship is a union heading for disaster if both the individuals have a mindset of only wanting to take and not give. It's as predictable as the darkness after sunset.
Thus and without much of fuss get on with it and venture into the darkness (may god be with you). he he.

Random stupidity full of infused confusion

Following the likes of many I wanted to own a blog that is visited and read by many. So I created myself a link and started to wander the corners and the grey areas’ that were for ideas and topics that can fit my blog and me.

Compilation of words that can suit the reader and appeal to one is as serious a talent as composing a music note that can appease a listener, which I thought I had in me. Anyways going by many such presumptions and aspirations I started putting in my ideas, words and situations I thought best to be expressed before all. The dilemma was always there in choosing the words and the topics while the appeal and the readability still remains a major factor.

How random can our thoughts be and how fickle they can get is something that always intrigued us, talking of which I thought why not I share them with you. So here is a classic example of me being stupid with words.

Of expectations and exceptions!

The contents of anything would only be known once you explore it, but again would the contents stand to have an influence on you is completely dependent on your psyche at the time of exploration.

Expectations tend to creep in with every moment that draws you closer while unraveling the contents. The correlation to which i would like get a comparison with the contents of such things and the psychology involved might sound weird but i tend to get my inspirations from the most unexpected things and persons.


My expectations out of you were completely extinct while i was getting to know you, but that vacant space was getting over crowded with little but significant expectations. Suddenly everything that is associated with you has tagged an expectation with it. I don't know what this feeling is but it feels good to draw an imaginative expectation and then find to what extent I am proven right, agreed i failed to meet my own expectation of expecting things off you but hey the feeling of an anticipation, failure and attached emotions just fill my heart.

The joys and sorrow that come with you are most beautiful feelings i have had for anyone after a long time. Babes you have this amazingly distinct and enigmatic persona that makes me crazy, happy, smile and also sad sometimes, but you know that is what makes us "human".

This is not an intention to instigate any kind of emotion in you but just to let you know am completely head over heels with whatever the emotion that you make me go through.

What if ?

(If the world is without women)

I would say it would be quite an interesting thing to discuss if not imagine for we know the consequences of the later.

The world without women: (at last) anyways going by the way the human race has evolved and resenting over god’s creation or should I say the way women evolved, there is a lot that is left out for an explanation before we even start to think about the world without women

Man had always tried to understand woman, just as he had endeavoured to understand all other aspects of his world, but with little success. It was agreed among man what woman was-- more beautiful, less intelligent and crazy. But man could never agree on why.

If without women, man would have been a nomad travelling around the world foraging for fruits and berries or perhaps building things for the future (like inventing fire, hunting tools or a rudimentary mud hut). This life of his was blissful, less caring and more adventurous. But with the woman at his side and by her constant influence man had to settle down and pick one place to forage and live. This I think was only after centuries of constant nagging and bitching.

With permanent settlements came agriculture, but only reluctantly so. Man didn't necessarily till the fields for his own sake, but rather because woman expected him to. Woman's obsession with material wealth and a higher standard of living pushed man to excel and to provide more and more for her, a precedent that would be followed for the next couple millennia of human existence.

Woman also engaged in mating practices that intimidated and confused most clear-thinking men. While man was out in the forests and fields building things for the future the woman was off with a lesser man romping around, being treated poorly, you know, having "fun" the way a woman does.

Anyways, to escape the already testing family life and women’s almost idiotic propensity towards this irrational behaviour, man developed philosophy and religion-- philosophy to justify to himself the reasons for his own loneliness and try understanding everything but women, and religion to "persuade" woman she was better off with him, rather than a bunch of unknown misfits (to whom she never the less was always attracted).

Now having achieved the wanted and finding happiness in the most unexpected, irrelevant, inappropriate and unheard things women then went ahead to claim her superiority over man. With her role in man's family now firmly in place (thanks to settlement, family and related forced affairs), she yearned for power equal or greater to man's and nagged until man relented and gave her a nominal role in his affairs.

With power and things falling her way she started becoming a greater force to reckon and the worst to bear. Unbeknownst to woman, however, this arrangement never left the realm of triviality, at least not in man's mind, which was all that counted in the scheme of things. Woman was free to imagine herself as a string-puller, an ear-whisperer, an illusion she derived much pleasure from, being a psycho-neurotic. Man, in turn, was free to keep the appearance up, if only for his own peace of mind, all the while ignoring woman's very real attempts to take things further.

Dumbstruck by his loss and slow eclipse of his power and authority, man returned to thinking and contemplating his condition, which led to all kinds of tragic and empty-stomach induced erroneous logic. Theories like socialism, communism, moral relativism and egalitarianism abounded. Man took to abridging fellow man's freedom as a simple pastime, and finally, in an angry and frustrated act of desperation, man turned to war as a release. Finally, when the Earth was scorched, the trenches and fields littered with bodies and mushroom clouds rose over the horizon, man paused to give reason one more shot.

Rather than trying to rationalize woman any further and remain confused for the rest of his existence, he turned his energies towards trying to understand how best to exploit woman's weaknesses, as well as her strengths.

Now going by the way things have been explained, understood and observed and how the human race has evolved we can only differ to argue and imagine a world without women, can we? Anyways the extent of damage if not the development nearly opposes any argument or statement that can be made against the very existence of women.

What would be of man, without woman?

He would remain a wild beast or a free man wandering forest and fields with nothing much at stake than his mere survival. His evolution as a civilised and family man would have been a complete miss where most of his inventions like the steam engine, electric bulb, gramophone, antibiotics and the wheel itself would never have been attempted.

Mans drive to amass wealth, popularity and attention would have not got into picture as he would have no one but his own self to please. Going by the extremes and assuming him to resort and please other men he still would have had himself than other material and trivial things to exhibit.

Now venturing into the fact of reproduction of men (as we have completely striken out women), god would have created a rather simple and less enigmatic machine capable to producing men with no frills attached, it probably would need a push of a button or pulling of a lever.

On the contrary and speaking of our acquaintance with them in our own sphere, and the way in which we seem to fascinate and draw ourselves to them even as our perceptions are obtuse, where we talk vehemently and superlatively, blunder and quarrel. Without women we still would have been a beast in the forest.

And so to add that extra spice and avoid having a near perfect world, I would not want to imagine a world without women.

Epilogue: ‘The possibility of interpretation lies in the identity of the observer with the observed’.

This post of mine was influenced (including a few excerpts and views) by a great few who shared a greater knowledge in understanding women proposing theories which never the less failed in achieving the greater goal if not assisting man to almost conquer them.

Random thoughts ... ..

I sometimes feel that the complications that set forth of the human nature and the understanding of the same is more than a contradiction to what is assumed. The fagility and the complexity of the involved emotions is more to our understanding than those of that experienced.


The frivolous connotations that emerge out of the human friendship and the emotional attachment are only for the lack of sense that is found in severe deficiencies on either parties where all that is ever involved is taken for granted. Going by which and my understanding of the under-stated or under-estimated emotions..i see a greater mystery that is to be ravelled. Humans and their complex behavioural patterns. Think am just no exception.

On the contrary

I think there are two ways to understanding my previous article: The natural and the social.

I reckon there is a possibility of being friends with a woman, just as long as there is certain distance time-wise and space-wise between the friendship parts. Instinct is a very powerful thing; there are lots of communications between people other than verbal and visual. This is why sometimes we, men, like a girl that isn't that visually appealing; or the other way around, there might be this gorgeous woman, but something in her tells us that she is not worth the effort.

When talking about men-women relationships (friend-wise), there are many variables to consider: For how long do the man and woman know each other? Does he have a partner? Does she have a partner? Have they ever been involved? How often do they see each other? But posing as a friend to her because you were attracted to her can become into a nonsensical and hypocritical situation. There is nothing wrong with having an honest interest in her taste and feelings, just as long as you accept that the reason of this is to see if the relationship is going to become something serious or if its going to be just some fooling around. But if your interest is not corresponded in some definite time then you're going nowhere and you're been just playing as a fool.

And we also completely can’t conclude that a friendship between a man and a woman is impossible, under certain environments. I deeply love many Girls I know from my childhood, former friends and other women that I know, I consider all of them true friends.

I guess it all depends on what you call friendship. If friendship is for you seeing each other regularly and talking constantly or hang out regularly, then men and women with certain appeal for each other cannot definitely stay on pure friendly bases. Then again, if friendship for you is a bond that you've made with someone that neither space time nor society can break, then yes, friendship between men and women is possible. It is a spiritual matter.

The Mystery Continues..

I'm constantly fascinated by the female mind, the "logical" component and the emotional dogmata, so I started to analyze and understand the very few I knew and here is what I inferred. The findings might be close to being called truth or might just be rubbished but hey I at least made an effort to venture into the dark.

Often in dealings with the fairer sex we reach a point where honesty becomes an issue. It's not an issue in the sense you might be thinking of ("Do I tell her I like her?" “Will she accept my love or rub me off as an emotional jerk?”). Rather, by being honest we find ourselves in a relationship -- in the strictest sense of the word, denoting an interactive, communicative situation between two people -- that is quickly crumbling away to nothing or should I rather say something

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Like a Stoic, our tendency is to accept the warzone-like circumstances as given and do our best to achieve a result we are happy with within those bounds. This means sticking to our principles, sound reasoning and emotional detachment. Unlike a Stoic, however, we constantly find ourselves questioning what is and is not outside of our control.

I attempt some amateur female psychology in an effort to find an answer to this question.

It's quite clear to me that, like some men, most women do not appreciate absolute honesty, preferring instead that men behave in ways that correspond to their fantasy, romantic-comedy version of reality that women are born with implanted in their minds. (This principle does not hold true, of course, in relation to the dirt bag band member boyfriends women typically date. In these situations, women constantly find themselves confused, and consequently aroused, by their inability to tell if their boyfriends are being honest with them or not. For, if the boyfriend were an honest type, the woman would not be dating him in the first place!) Not only do they not appreciate honesty, they tend to punish it when they are faced with it. That or seriously freak out; Sometimes the both.

We all have to admit two things in male-female relationships as fact:

1) Men and women who are attracted to one another cannot remain just friends.

2) Guys want to have sex with almost every woman they come into contact with, some more so than others.

Women pretend to be unaware of 2 and thus deny the inherent truth behind it. Whether or not women actually are aware of 2 is for another understanding, the heart of the matter is that because of their irrational insistence on living a movie with no director, no script and ignorant actors, women go absolutely batshit insane when a man comes clean according to this statement-of-fact 1.

This is the issue with honesty I described near the beginning of this post. Anytime we have been nothing but honest with a woman, anytime we have refused to play games and beat around the bush and instead just admitted that we are attracted to her and would like to be more than friends, we suddenly become a bad guy. At this point we are worse than a jerk, because we admitted being a jerk.

What's in our control and what's out of our control? Is the erosion of the relationship out of our control? In a sense, yes; In another sense, no. It is out of our control in the sense that we are honest. Anyways am not trying to represent the entire men-kind but trying to elucidate a point on ‘to be or not to be (honest)’

I am an honest person and being honest is what comes naturally to me. I can't control for the variance caused by 99.9% of women not appreciating that. The way they respond to who I am is out of my control. It is fully in my control if I choose to be anything but honest.

If we tell our principles to go to hell and instead purposefully set out to be duplicitous lying sacks of shit, we could carry on a relationship at a friendly interval almost indefinitely. This appears to be what most people do. Taking the logic one step further, we could probably adjust our more-than-friends success rate in the positive direction by making this simple change as well. By becoming what we despise, I almost guarantee we also become what women love.

But I am not going to do that, because I am not an Average Person. I'm disciplined enough to not have to resort to unscrupulous tactics to get what I want. (But hey you guys are free from my resolutions or principles)

There's another element of psychology to all of this, and that's one of ego. When confronted with statement-of-fact 1, most women reply that this is an act of chauvinistic belief on our part.

If you really like the person, you should be happy to be friends with them even if they don't want to be anything more than that.

Right? Wrong. Why would any self-respecting guy want to spend his time with a woman who doesn't see anything more in him than a possible source of attention? Why would a guy ever want to position himself for a big fall he can see coming from a mile away by continuing to hang out with a woman who will never let him like her anymore than she thinks he already does?

Women want to talk about ego when confronted with a man who is put off by their implicit rejection of him (going by the 2). What about the woman who thinks she's so great that guys are supposed to line up in front of her cage and watch while she gets along with someone else?

Female psychology? No thanks, I've had my fill.

(Sorry’ but if you cannot get the right RIGHT don’t eat what I throw at you) - just as and in accordance of the famous Ladder theory

What Colour am i?

For those who are colour blind i certainly am a miss but for those who are not, read further..

Am not pink on the broader perspective for it represents the other preference which i certainly am not. Light pink is definitely me as am very friendly and romantic. Black I obviously am for it represents my elegance and the dark and unexplored side. White I am for my innocence and honesty. Blue I stand as am loyal and trust worthy. Green I have shades of, as am natural and non-toxic. Yellow is me for as I shine with energy and joy. Brown for my skin tone and stability in life. Red for my will power and courage. And for all those who are not this colourful don’t worry no more, for you can pick a colour of your choice and voila!. am there.

Lady Influences and Me (Part 1)

Of all the influences I had in my life, some stand note worthy and the rest not worthy. People change or adapt accordingly under a strong influence which is reflected either in their approach on certain issues or on their personality on the whole. Of many such influences and changes the most significant ones are from my lady friends, family and not so significant others.

All the women in my life have contributed to or imparted some change in me with their direct and indirect influences. They include my mom, my sisters and my friends.

Right from my birth to the day now, my mom had had a greater influence on my personality and my understanding of life. She taught me everything that is me now, from mumbling the first ever word ‘mama’ to writing this blog. She taught me the civilised life with her honest, tolerant and caring presence. Her love and caring never eased and continues to grow with me. She is a never-ending song in my heart of comfort, happiness, and being. I may sometimes forget the words but I always remember the tune.

My sisters too have had their significant influences on me. My elder sister and her dedication to the family taught me the importance of loving owns’ family and being loved back. My younger sister also played her part and still continues to with her money saving skills and her always there for me attitude. Though one is elder and the other younger they with me forever like a gift to my heart, a friend to my soul, a witness to my worst and best, like a shadow through my ups and downs sharing the joys and sorrow.

They stand unique to themselves and any other women I have come across. They are most beautiful and wonderful things to happen to me. Even as they stand north and south when it comes to their personalities they left an indelible impression and influenced my life in one of the most gorgeous and magnificent ways. They changed my perspective on women or I say my understanding of them with their mood swings, sweet talks, love and emotion and their attention to detail.

I am what i am today and without them am no one today, thank you ma for everything that i am and will be tomorrow.

The Glam Pam Effect I

The 'pam effect' from the erstwhile Baywatch season was quite brouhaha among disparate ages and gender. The effect i’d say has revolutionised the way we descry female bosom. The trend is quite celebrated and tracked in the western worlds where augmentation lands you into immediate spot light. Many an artists and queens (from different cosmos) donned the same and ruled the roost thanks to the fancy of the opposite sex. The ‘Pam effect’ has gradually transformed or i like to say ‘transmogrified’ into something that has become a phantasm for both the genders. The uplift has been shifted to nose, ears, face, chin and what all they think need a change or perfection. Suddenly perfection is all cosmetic and simulated. Little do we realise that the microcosm of such tawdry acts can only last till it reaches the crest. On the same lines i want to quote about an article which i recently read where an English journalist tried something different by artificially or say temporarily augmenting herself and finding the thrills and fun by grabbing all the attention she never thought was hers. She then quotes that this act of hers has elated her to a celebrity encountered with more chivalrous men than usual. The attention and respect showered on her, she says’ was nothing she might have got with her current stature. Did she forget that the perceptions and the fantasies of any gender change when encountered with something greater than usual? So i say shame the glam rather than sham it and let the generations live with natural conscience than anything else that’s simulated.

Music - The most potent muse

Little did i know ‘nothing else matters’ is an attitude quipped by the legends intending to say nothing matters when it comes to music. The six strings and the eternal bliss are like a felicity of expression with more to it than mere articulation.

The quintessential bands and groups that played the strings have always had that divine mien transcending tranquillity and nirvana. The influences embarked there upon have changed many a soul, from realisations to recantations which i like to call “The twist of soul and the connotation”.

For those who already know life can be cruel with puissant intimidation sparing none and there are no exceptions. But for some, music gives a risible approach and forces a twist which changes the perceptions of life. Songs that were heard start to map the incidents with intuitions, repercussions with regressions and regret with rejoice. And thus spoke ‘Music washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life’. So discover the phenomenonal complexity of music and the way it can positively influence your life.

Of balls and bollocks

‘Balls to all sans a few’ stands to stir a hue but did anybody get the cue. For all that is said and done i only intended to ignore all but few, the professionals do it and so will i. This blog has already made many reds and blues but drawing the flak can only be done by that very few. So if my blog has seen some reprobation, bollocks i say’ just know it’s not for the hoi polloi. Please know that am here to stay and ill pay none the heeds for i write what i feel ‘reality and reason’. A warning that i give: dont eat more than you can chew.

The Down whiskey code: (Might not be as illustrious as The Da Vinci Code)

Mr. Dan would get brown after reading this blog, cant help it but write my own researched piece on the whiskey code. The code stands simple unlike the later running through ages and puzzles for am not a symbologist and certainly not Mr. Robert Langdon to solve complex questions. The iterated words that are stuttered and muttered while under the influence can even make Mr. Robert run for cover.
Coming back to the code

1) Never stand and consume for you may fall once you fall asleep.
2) Never call women when drunk for you may not remember what you spoke and then brood over your unintentional commitments.
3) Never carry more money than the amount you consume for you may end-up paying more than you can digest in the morning.
4) Never pick up a lady after getting drunk for who knows how they actually look in the morning. (The Beer Google effect)
5) Never drink and drive for you may pass-out and meet with an accident so always drink while driving with this you may actually end up drunk by the time you reach home.
6) Never mix drinks without much knowledge for you may end up with a head weighing a ton.
7) Always carry contraceptives for who knows you might even end up humping anything that walks.
8) Always carry a compass or a map for you might be wondering where you are in the morning.
9) Never ever drink on empty stomach for that is the reason you end up putting extra kilos as you tend to drink more and eat much more after drinks.
10) Always be happy with what you get to drink for after consumption all have the same impact.

Sun block (SPF 50+)

The human emotion i say is like a paradoxical reaction with more to it than expected. The whimsical notions associated are quite capricious and may leave more than a stain when encountered.

Love gives warmth and shines on people who embrace it but did we ever wonder what would come off it when we explore it without limits! Well it gives a tan to the fortunate else a sun burn to the less fortunate. I always loved the song ‘sunscreen for everyone’ by Bazz Lurhmann and always wondered why would he use such a title for his song, well it makes a lot of sense - too much of love exposure either tans you or burns you and to avoid such we use a sunscreen (here it is an advice or lessons from experience).

I always pitied my friends and others who suffered the dreaded which i like to call ‘the Love lorn and torn either way’ syndrome. Anyways whenever i found such fools brooding over their tales i always thought ‘get a life dude/tte’ but once did i know i would find myself in the same pit like they.

The journey was amazing though, the thrills and the attached frills always made me want more (sometimes regretfully when curtailed). The fun filled days were like love candles (handles too thanx to the beer after breaking up) lighting up my days, nights and afternoons giving me the warmth of the other side which i never felt. For i say ‘A lovers love conjures all thee’, however being an Indian and born with that extra bit of melanin i was able to protect myself from getting severely burnt or hurt under the candles (and handles). My extra bit of melanin here was the love and understanding of my family and the involved, i just could pull it through.

The experience was more than exciting and ascertaining than i could have ever imagined or dreamed of for i analysed the pit and admired my craftsmanship for digging myself to such depths. The epitome of the emotions that are involved can only be blocked with a sun block along with the appropriate SPF levels. We Indians use less concentrated sunscreen thanks to the extra melinine and hence more prone to the extremes while the west who are lesser fools emotionally use a higher concentration. "Thus forth use a sunscreen and enjoy the heat no matter where you come from."